Hi. Have you ever had that friend to whom you’re making the most effort on? Like you always need her approval. You always think first if she’ll like it. You always do what she wants. You get jealous the she is closer to another friend. You always want to get her attention. You know you love your friend so much but on the other hand, you also hate her at some point. You come to that point where you hate her because you feel taken for granted like she does not see your efforts. You question yourself, “When will i ever be enough?” “When will she put me on that same level of special?” She always say you are special, ofcourse, but would you rather want more or settle for it?
Slowly, you realize, you don’t hate her. You hate yourself for not being able to be contented, for not being able to just accept you will never be at that point. You hate yourself for making all this effort when you know she won’t notice it. You hate yourself because you have been lying when you say you will be okay. You think you should just let go but then you are hurting because you still can’t. You wish you can just be at ease with what is happening. You dont want to talk to her about this because you already know what she’s gonna say and you’ll just end up fighting. You are just tired of even trying.
This feels like you are at a cliff holding her hand but she is not trying to pull you up. Instead, you are the one trying to climb all alone. It’s easier to let go and die at the bottom of that fall or keep on holding. You now have a choice.